免費抱抱－不是Elsa才是Elsa

覺得不可思議，原來這件事已至少是15年前的事了...

「Free hugs」，有人翻成「自由擁抱」，而我個人喜歡管它叫「免費抱抱」(無價無私之大愛境界的抱抱)，歷經時空變換，如此大愛式溫暖的抱抱現在看來是如此的奢求和讓人懷念，特別在疫情之下，所謂的〝社交距離〞，讓人與人之間距離加大的這個當下，連一只口罩也能引發衝突與殺機，太可怕了！

免費抱抱

「Free hugs」，起源於一位名叫 Juan Mann 的澳洲男，一開始在雪梨鬧區街頭手舉「Free hugs」的牌子，將這項運動推向愈來愈冷漠與疏離的世界，一個展開雙臂陌生人的擁抱重啟人與人之間的溫度，透過這般無私的行動讓人溫暖起來、振作起來，那時也的確引起了很大的回響，甚至成立一個推動此活動的正式組織 (https://www.freehugscampaign.org)。

有誰還記得這個 MV？還有人跟我一樣的感動嗎？從第一個老婆婆願意給陌生人擁抱開始，畫面瞬間變彩色，一連串擁抱動起來、熱絡起來... 心中的觸動甚巨！(真的會影響！) 不過，由於疫情，須遵守〝社交距離〞，「Free hugs」活動必須暫停，很是無奈。(https://www.bbc.com/news/av/health-57232423)

Mann 說，這是讓大家笑出來的一種方式，因為只要有一個人過來擁抱，你就會看到從旁經過的五個路人臉上的微笑。

"It's a way to make people smile," Mann said.
"For every person who gets a hug, you see five walk past with a smile on their face."

事實證明，太多人缺乏擁抱，太多人需要擁抱，一種愛的傳達，減少偽裝、猜忌、距離、衝突與暴力的重要方法之一。

已故的知名家庭治療師維吉尼亞·薩提爾(Virginia Satir) 曾表示，我們每天需要抱抱4次才能生存、抱抱8次可維護身心健康，而要抱抱12次才能成長。

美國心理學專家卡絲塔爾多(Deb Castaldo) 說，許多心理學的研究顯示，不喜歡身體碰觸的人，容易陷入沮喪情緒，甚至導致厭食，危害健康與生存意志。「擁抱有助於穩定情緒，增加親近感，是關係裡的潤滑劑，」卡絲塔爾多說，擁抱時間要夠久，才要真正讓身心放鬆。

❤ 擁抱，療癒的力量很強大，擁抱真的太重要了！

針對「Free hugs」，有民眾反應：

"...but I want a hug from you," one suit says. (...我想要你的擁抱，一個想要 Free Hugs 的擁抱的人的心聲，太多想要被擁抱，卻無人擁抱。)

"You've made my day" is Brazilian Wagner Sentos's response. (這一天因你而美好，一個被擁抱的人的心聲，一個真誠簡單的擁抱真的可以溫暖人心。)

沒錯，你需要擁抱。

沒錯，有人需要你的擁抱。

今天新消息出來，非洲波札那出現新冠變異株，強過Delta！新變種病毒「Nu」入侵亞洲，英國衛生大臣示警：史上最糟突變，唉，〝社交距離〞恐怕成了人類永久的生活型態了。

但不論如何，至少對於同住的家人在感染無虞及安全的情況下，給家人抱抱，特別是有孩子的，別忘了給你的孩子抱抱，好好的抱一抱，有助於他們心智健康的發展...

MV 好聽的背景歌曲為 Sick Puppies 的《All the Same》，歌詞：

I don't mind where you come from
As long as you come to me
I don't like illusions
I can't see them clearly

I don't care, no, I wouldn't dare
To fix the twist in you
You've shown me eventually
What you'll do

I don't mind
I don't care
As long as you're here

Go ahead, tell me you'll leave again
You'll just come back running
Holding your scarred heart in hand
It's all the same
And I'll take you for who you are
If you take me for everything
Do it all over again
It's all the same

Hours slide, and days go by
Till you decide to come
And in between it always seems too long
For certain

And I have the skill, yeah, I have the will
To breathe you in while I can
However long you stay
Is all that I am

I don't mind
I don't care
As long as you're here

Wrong or right
Black or white
If I close my eyes
It's all the same

In my life
The compromise
I close my eyes
It's all the same

Go ahead, say it, you're leaving
You'll just come back running
Holding your scarred heart in hand
It's all the same

And I'll take you for who you are
If you take me for everything
Do it all over again
It's all the same

作詞/作曲：Emma Anzai / Antonina Armato / Tim James / Shimon Moore / Timothy James Price